Mumbai or Delhi?????

6 months back I went to mumbai for about a week with my family. The week that i spent there, was so influential that i am still think about it I always share it whenever someone talks about my trip.
We live in "Delhi" -the capital of India, but still somewhere we lack behind Mumbai. You can call the life in Mumbai a totally different world. There is a saying about Mumbai that if
a person lives there for about 1000 days he cannot adjust in any other city.
 Just answer some simple questions-
What happens if you accidently hit someone's vehicle on road in Delhi?
do you receive some abusive language? Or the person directly come to violence?
2nd question-
What if the accident is done by a girl?- I guess just the violence is ignored!!!!
and do you see any girl roaming alone on Delhi roads after 8:30 or 9? or any girl coming out from clubs  at late nights alone?
I have my own experience!! I asked my sister that did you notice any guy staring at you, and her reply earned respect for Mumbai. I don't know whether its Mumbai or the people around there but I liked he culture there.

thats the main difference i am talking about.  

Mumbai is much better in these ways than Delhi. No one uses abusive languages with strangers just like that. and moreover Mumbai is much safer than Delhi for girls.
 I am not saying that Delhites ill mannered  but I like the culture in Mumbai. Yes it is true that Mumbai welcomes you opening its arms but on the other hand it is also quite busy, a neighbor has got nothing to do with his neighbor and in Delhi!!! we know how the neighbors are.
After so many differences in Delhi and Mumbai I still love my Delhi and proud to call my self as a Dilliwala!!!
I guess that is the magic of Delhi..the love of Delhi.

Womb for rent

It is said that motherhood is the best phase of a woman's life. A mother- child relationship is considered to be the most adorable one, but in recent times it has become a profession to escape poverty.

Surrogacy, an arrangement in which a woman carries and delivers a child for another couple or person, has become very common in India and many women are indulged in it for monetary reasons. Women who are not financially strong find it best to rent their womb.

These days couples from abroad who are not able to have child of their own due to female sterility or other medical issues are coming to India to have child because of huge availability of females who are ready to go for surrogacy in minimum amount.

Our society is still not open about such practices and considers it sinful, so women who deliver surrogate babies do it secretly because of the fear of being shunned.

Earlier surrogacy was illicit, but in 2002 it was legalized in India and from then the surrogacy industry has boomed, becoming a key part of the country's lucrative medical tourism market.

At times ladies who choose to be surrogate mothers are exploited by the social parents of the child, sometimes they are fooled by the couple and are not paid according to the agreement, sometimes the society stand against such ladies and make their life hell.

An NGO Sama works for the welfare of the surrogate mothers, but still there is need for stringent laws to protect the surrogate mothers in India so that they get a respectable stature in the society and to stop the unethical practices related to surrogacy.

THE THIRD GENDER

Is it a sin to be a different person???  If no then why do transgender face so much of social-discrimination ,Inequality  .Transgender are those people whose “gender identity”  is not matching their” assigned sex”. These people are consider to be third gender in our society ,But they are not accepted by our society  .Transgender and non conforming people face injustice at every turn , In childhood homes, in school system that promise to shelter and educate, In workplace, Even in grocery store ,at the hand of landlord ,police officer, Health care worker and service providers .Many social activists have been working for  transgender rights .Even Indian court have legalized gay sex .But still that much awareness is not yet spread .And yet people consider  being “  TRANSGENDER IS A MENTAL ILLNESS” , Many people are trying their best to spread the awareness Actor like Brad Pitt have said that  he will get married to her girlfriend Angelin Jolie when everyone will have a right to marriage .so its high time we should spread the awareness and accept them as one of part of our society .

Is dignity greater than life ?

A - They don’t agree. They don’t.

B - But why? What’s the problem?

A- Because they will don’t understand my relationship with him. They will don’t understand that how much we like each other and I will be happier with him after marriage rather than any other person whom I don’t know. They believe that both person belong to the same community is not made right for each other and also say that how much respect of parents left in the society of that girl and guy .You tell me doesn’t I have the right to choose my partner.

B – Of course you have the right. After all it’s about your life.

A – I don’t understand how they can think of it in this era where things have change so much & so people perspective about it.

B – Don’t worry. Every thing will be fine.

The conversation between the two girls standing nearby me in the metro made me think about the serious issue of “Honour Killing” in context of their talks. After thinking about the issue in deep, I think to write a blog on it as a part of my assignment.

The number of love marriages might have gone up in the metros in India but the reality remains differ in the villages in many other states. Honour killing, where men or women are killed by their kin or other members of their caste, is still very rampant in many parts of India. Statistics say that such killings happen in order to save the honour of the caste, community or family. Caste still remains one of the most important factors governing the lives of many people in some parts of India.

It is very sad that the caste system in India has turned into a social evil for many. I wonder how many young people have lost their lives in the name of honour. And how many there are more who are at the gunpoint of this rigid belief system. It is a false belief that honour killing only involves the killing of women. Men are equally victims of this practice, especially when it affects the reputation of a particular caste and community. Many grooms have been killed by the father or the brother of the bride.

When it comes of country's development we somewhere talk about how India has developed and changed so far and reach from where to where and achieved so much. But from my point of view all this proves to be meaningless until and unless people rigid perspective does not change in some issues like inter caste marriage which somewhere harms the future of the youth and ultimately it affects the economy of country like India where 75% of population belong to the youth.

And above all, this make me think that Is people’s ego, respect; dignity is greater than their own loved ones life which they steal by killing them? 

Human Respect VS. Human Life

Corruption

Corruption has become a monster for the common people from all walks of life. Louder the noise against the evil of corruption, the wider the tentacles it spreads as it with a revenge.

Today the mentality of people as well as the administration or the government is “Go for bribery and increase”. So out of control is the corruption that someone rightly remarked “Blessed are the corrupt, for they will inherit the world.” When law breakers become law breakers, who will save the country?

There are many factors responsible for corruption. One caste has become the basis of distribution of investment. Second is the financial interest, emotion rather than reason dictates politics. Third the society just runs after wealth and just amasses it by means- right or wrong.

If democracy has to survive, the middle class value of probity in public life will have to be sustained. If each one of us refuses to offer bribes, however small, corrupt officials will have to step back eventually and this vicious circle can be broken.

India-Jai Ho

      In the parties of reception in marriages we believe the water we drink is safe....?

Because we see big mineral water containers are arranged.

But reality is different, most of the caterers fools us by supplying tap water in those containers.

Share it in the interest of public health. :)

MAN versus MACHINE

Today, science and technology had reached great hikes .We can perform the easiest to the toughest possible jobs using a machine. From climbing the stairs to flying in air, from air conditioners to heaters, from LPG gas stoves to microwaves, from coal irons to steam irons, machines have made their places everywhere. Machines works on the basis of technologies and doesn’t requires manual labour. A man can be replaced by a machine, but can one imagine a machine replaced by a man? Think of the time when there were rarely any machines, how much hard labour was required to perform any task. The machines have not only made it easier, but also faster and better.

Machines on one hand save time and labour, they snatch jobs of the poor people on the other hand as well. And hence, machines, somewhere or the other have become a hidden cause of unemployment, which further causes poverty. A machine rarely employs two to three people. If we start replacing machines with the manual labour, think of the unemployment which will be overcome. But compromising with the quality is again a big deal. A large number of labour used to get employed in agricultural field, but now machines have occupied their places . With the increase in technology, the competition levels are also increasing day by day. And ones again, rich people are becoming richer. Due to which the vicious cycle of unemployment, poverty and illiteracy continues. But, the thing is not to quit using machines but the limited and proper use of machines.

How safe is metro for women?

Travelling by the Metro train today is a challenge in itself, especially for females. Many of the public today prefer taking the Metro over other public transport due to its being resonable, faster and comfortable service. But I believe that a majority of women do not feel safe while travelling in the Delhi Metro. Sometimes it include instances of verbal and physical harassment faced by women. Those who choose to travel in the general compartment are also harassed. There are girls who work late. But they still are afraid to take the metro after 10pm.

Then what is the motive behind running this metro which public still consider a safe transport?

A small initiative for the women will help in taking forward one more step towards making Delhi a better place.

Drinking age should be minimised in India or not ?

People use alcohol for numerous reasons; peer pressure, celebration, anxiety, sadness, boredom, rebellion and insomnia are just a few. Teens fall under the category of “people”. The legal drinking age is currently twenty-one, but illegally drinking age is as low as zero. Why? Is the main question asked. I can assure you the under age drinking age percentage would drop if the age is lowered.
Few reasons for teens drinking are: peer pressure, enjoyment, etc. But the main reason for doing so is “breaking the law.” 87% of high school seniors have used alcohol. That means that a large quantity of teens under the age of seventeen to eighteen have used alcohol before. We all know why teens drink, I mean is common since. Just the feel that they get of breaking the law is huge. Being rebel and not following the rules is an important role of a teen’s life. Consequences are the one that change them, but we don’t want them to experience the consequences of being under the influence of alcohol because we know them and they are fatal. Dying in a car accident and killing others is a mess that we don’t want to clean.

Despite the fact that is illegal for young teens to purchase it, they are able to get it through their parent’s own liquor cabinets, unscrupulous store clerks, or older friends who purchase it for them. As we all see, is not hard for teens to obtain alcohol. Why not lower the drinking age then? I mean any way you put it, they are getting it.

Mumbai Beckons

I was not born in Mumbai, I was not brought up in Mumbai yet it is the one place when talked about brings a smile to my face.  It has been given many names, the city of dreams, the city of opportunities, home to the largest slums of Asia i.e. Dharavi, the Gateway of India etc. But to me it is a home away from home. It is my comfort zone. Even if I have to jostle for space whilst travelling in the local train to the BEST buses, there are no complaints sitting on the parapet of Marine Drive just gazing aimlessly at the Arabian Sea lifts my spirits. Eating Bhel puri or Bhutta and admiring the Queen’s Necklace that starts from Marine Drive, crossing Chowpatty right upto the high rise buildings of Malabar Hills is the sight to see. There is no end to the sights of Mumbai and how can one miss out on the latest additions i.e. the Sea-Link from Bandra to Worli that cuts short the travel distance considerably. Mumbai again is the home to innumerable actors and actresses who strike gold here and become famous known faces.  So guys who want to become rich and a famous or the next Sharukh Khan can go and declare to the Arabian Sea “I will be the King of this City”. Mumbai is waiting and will welcome you with open arms.

You're Unbelievable!!!!

Sometimes I write in a personal fashion and it often creates misunderstandings that, I think I go deeply into humans evolved. This leads to a sense of familiarity, even friendship, which is wrong because what’s going on there is not friendship.
We only learn this by living, television doesn’t teach it, schools don’t teach it, and if you’re above a certain age, our parents didn’t teach it. You have to learn it by living, by thinking of someone as a friend, only to find out they don’t think of you as a friend. It can be devastating, I know, I’ve been there myself. 
Friendship is something you choose to do, you don’t do it out of a sense of obligation. To force someone to be a friend is to not have a friend.
Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. I learned a lot about friends I remember when I got sick in 1997. I learned that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest. And they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. If I would trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It’s not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it’s the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful, then you’re a friend. If I find I must be careful how I say things, then it’s something other than friendship.Today people make friends so that they can compromising or make a deal and you cannot find the true friendship in this ERA.

Mother's love is PEACE

There are various forms of love in this world. The most eternal and important is the relationship between a mother and child. They do not require any words. An infant feels the love just by touch of mother. When child start speaking, whatever he or she speaks, mother finds love in that. Whether it is America, Europe, India or any part of any country, children of all countries learn and speak " Maa (mother)" in their local language. A mother loves her children even when they least deserve to be loved. 

It is believed in India that the worship  of mother is equivalent to worshiping god. But, now a day in nuclear family mother is a burden. Therefore, this relationship does not exist. However, mother still love their children, but children do not care. Present parents in nuclear family should realize that their children will do the same thing  with them as they are behaving with their parents.

Beauty Enhancement Awareness Among Boys

In today's era, boys are much curious to enhance their beauty as compare to girls and obviously the reason for the same you all must be knowing. Now the names have been converted from saloon to "PARLOURS". Now in fact the branding companies are also focussing on the same like they started producing Fair & Handsome with Fair & Lovely. The guys started spending their more than half of pocket money and time in enhancing their beauty and improving their hair styles. Dudes have started keeping creams, gels, lip guard etc. in their bags & just after reaching college/ school they are in favour of entering in the wash room first before entering their class rooms. Even studious guys are also a part of this disease, now the fashion has laid them to shift from spectacles to coloured eye contacts. But, ofcourse this step has improved their confidence to prove themselves that they are not lacking behind the girls in any respect and at last but not the least I can bet......."BOYS ARE BEST JAANLO, BAAT YE MAANLO".    

No one can think everything

Technologies and the conditions of society are changing day by day very rapidly. Technologies, which we are using nowadays, were not used by our grand parents early and will not even be used by the next generation. Everyone wants to be updated with the technologies. Whether it’s a change from black and white TV to the colored one or the heavy mobile sets to the light weighted I-phones!!!!!!!

Earlier no one could have thought that we will be using Internet for video calling from one country to another and even earlier no one knows what Internet is? Earlier the computer use to be meant for only scientists or the elite class people but now everyone from middle class family also has desktops or even laptops.the families who used to cook food on "chulha" are now using the gas facility or the heater facility at their homes.So, one cannot think everything about the changes going to happen around us but we can only follow and update ourselves with the new technologies and the new trends.

In short I will say that Technology makes our life easy and help to invent and discover new things. Thanks to the information and communication technologies through which we can communicate with each other around the world easily.we hope that these improvements in technologies will help the country to develop.

Happiness as a tribute to parents

Relationship is the bonding, connecting, behavior. As the baby born, gets involve in relationship with different people till the last breath of life. The relationship with parents must be strong. As the time passes parents get older and their children grown up as adult, form their own family then they realize the pain, and challenges, took and faced by their parents. This is the time when their parents feel lonely as they miss the noise of having their kids around them. Children should not forget their parents in any ways.

Children can give tribute to their parents by sharing their good moment with them, Showing respect to parents at all times, can organize a small picnic for them along with the family so in this way it will be an outing for their parents as well as the entertainment, can make a trip for 2 to 3 days to any religious place, can arrange lunch or dinner with some of their old friends, relatives, nearest and the dearest, this way when their parents see all of them after a quite long time I am sure the parents will get wet their eyes.

If anybody does the same then it will be a true love and honour to their parents and they will feel proud of their children. This would be truly a heaven on the earth for every parents. We should not forget that one day we also have to pass through the same age then we will expect the same from our children.

And I am proud that my father and my grandfather have arranged a party as a tribute to my great grandfather, as he has completed 100 years of his life with good health and wealth.

Moms and daughters shop together.... and enjoys it..

 

Moms and daughters shop together…..and enjoys it.

This tradition is certainly not new, but where mothers might have had to drag their daughters kicking and screaming to the malls to shop for clothes, this is not longer the case.  Moms still read the same fashion magazines as they did before they attained Mom status. Today’s Moms are often health conscious and fit; they look and feel young and refuse to abide by outdated societal fashion guides to ‘dress their age’. This brings mothers and daughters closer together on the spectrum of fashion trends more than ever before. Shopping for clothes with Mom is a treat, a delight, a time to be together and bond over something both are passionate about. Proof can be seen nearly every week in paparazzi photos of famous Moms shopping with their daughters. Even Madonna and her daughter engage in elaborate mother-daughter shopping trips. The boundaries between the generations have shifted and overlapped, rendering everyone virtually the same age in ‘fashion’ years.                                                         

Forgot books..after facebook

we all are very familiar with the new online book called Facebook.

No place to hide, hard to survive

Nowadays, many people are illegally migrating from Bihar and Bangladesh to New Delhi due to their basic needs and economic condition or reason. From this illegal migration population is increasing on a daily basis and its creating a problem for our country. Problems which our country is facing are poverty, unemployment, illiteracy etc.

This picture indicates that these people are homeless. They don’t have night shelters and many of them have night shelters but there is no space to live there. So these people have to sleep on roads, footpath, railway station, bus stands. They are not having anything to eat or drink, they are unemployed, and they can’t make their children to study so many of them start begging just to survive or to earn something for their family. But begging is illegal in Delhi through an extension of the Bombay Prevention of Begging Act of 1959 but still many people are begging. And many of women start working as a servant and their husband or father start doing work as a laborer on sites and many of them ride rickshaw.

Despite Indian Government and NGOs are running many programmes for the betterment of beggars. Free education, meals and medical facilities are offered to them at all government sponsored hospitals. Yet beggars don’t take advantage of these facilities. Hence only opportunities giving better employment, income, pension and not NGOs’ programmes alone can solve miseries of beggars in India.

The Blue Lagoon

There were moments when ths sky is splattered with colourful dots.Below,the blue waters reflect them.For a while I was not sure whether I was dreaming or looking at a real phenomenon.By and by I become one with the scene.Indeed,if I can do so,I feel the joy of freedom,of infinity,of adventure,and of faith.For,I am there to welcome the symbols of all these qualities.They are birds coming from not only our neighbourhood of Bangladesh or Nepal but distant and still more distant lands – Australia,Siberia,so on and so forth.Year after year they visit the great lake they are so fond of,a little before the winter sets in.They venture to fly over villages and towns,hills and forests for thousands of miles.

This happens at Lake Chilika,the largest lake in India,situated in Orissa,about 100km from Bhubaneswar,the capital of the State spread over 1100 sq.km.Chilika is India’s largest blackish water inland lake.The lake is rich in aquatic fauna and is a bird watcher’s delight.The lake is encircled by hills all along its arched shape,and its colour changes with the passing clouds overhead and the shifting sun.Chilika is well connected by air,rail and road.Bhubaneshwar is the nearest airport,situated 105km from Barkul,130km from Rambha and 110km from Satpara.Many attractions are there within the lake like Birds Island,Kalijai Island and Satapara.Birds Island is a haven for resident and migratory birds and is a bird-watcher’s paradise.Kalijai Island is home to Goddess Kalijai.The temple hosta a huge fair on Makar Sankranti every year.Satapara is a retreat on Chilika lake near the confluence of the lake with the sea.The sight of dolphins round the year ad abundance of migratory and resident birds in winter make it a preferred vacation spot to enfoy nature.Boating facilities are also available at Satapara.The nicest time to visit Chilika is during winter,when the lake reverberates with the cries of its avian population.Boats,to tour the lake,can be hired at Balugan,Barkul and Rambha.Accommodation is available at various places in available at various places in and around the lake.Some of the hotels are maintained and managed by the OTDC (Orissa Tourism Department Co-operation).

Dealing with crime against women

 Today in the world of technological advancement, where our lifestyle has sped up in all walks of life, but still our views are lacking behind. Even when several women's day have turned up and go, we wish and we forget. Newspapers have carried out large advertisements of government and political parties congratulating Indian women on their day and making tall claims about the upliftment and welfare. It is ironical that new stories of atrocities on women are relegated to inconspicuous corners. No doubt, Indian women has come a long way, but she continues to be plagued with hordes of problems like Gender Bias, eve teasing, sexual harassment, molestation, forced marriages, dowry deaths, female feticide and female infanticides etc. 

  I would like to ask, in such pathetic conditions, how can the girls dream of justice and liberty? Look around and you will see cases like D.G.P. Rathore's, where the culprits go free and enjoy freedom. So now it’s high time to seek answers from the government, when will all this end? When will an Indian woman be able to hold her head high, and lead a life of dignity?

  Until the golden day dawns, girls should adopt all the safety measures to protect herself, otherwise she will continue to reel under it for no fault of hers.