Sometimes I write in a personal fashion and it often creates misunderstandings that, I think I go deeply into humans evolved. This leads to a sense of familiarity, even friendship, which is wrong because what’s going on there is not friendship.
We only learn this by living, television doesn’t teach it, schools don’t teach it, and if you’re above a certain age, our parents didn’t teach it. You have to learn it by living, by thinking of someone as a friend, only to find out they don’t think of you as a friend. It can be devastating, I know, I’ve been there myself.
Friendship is something you choose to do, you don’t do it out of a sense of obligation. To force someone to be a friend is to not have a friend.
Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. I learned a lot about friends I remember when I got sick in 1997. I learned that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest. And they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. If I would trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It’s not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it’s the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful, then you’re a friend. If I find I must be careful how I say things, then it’s something other than friendship.Today people make friends so that they can compromising or make a deal and you cannot find the true friendship in this ERA.
We only learn this by living, television doesn’t teach it, schools don’t teach it, and if you’re above a certain age, our parents didn’t teach it. You have to learn it by living, by thinking of someone as a friend, only to find out they don’t think of you as a friend. It can be devastating, I know, I’ve been there myself.
Friendship is something you choose to do, you don’t do it out of a sense of obligation. To force someone to be a friend is to not have a friend.
Friendship is not a state of mind, it’s an act. It’s something you do, it’s not about whether you’re good or not, it’s not a reflection of you, it’s a balanced relationship between people. That doesn’t mean it’s always balanced at every moment. I learned a lot about friends I remember when I got sick in 1997. I learned that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest. And they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am so helpless and weak. If I would trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It’s not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it’s the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship. If I trust you to be truthful, then you’re a friend. If I find I must be careful how I say things, then it’s something other than friendship.Today people make friends so that they can compromising or make a deal and you cannot find the true friendship in this ERA.
8 comments:
i agree. true friends are hard to find.
frnds are everywhr but true frnds are very rare...
friends are hard to find.. i love my friends ... this article made me remember my sweetheart neha bhandari..
friend in need is a friend in deed..and yes getting true friends is unbelelievable
friends are those that are there to help you out in times of hardship. it is rare to get desired friends as for one you are serious and honest for,not necessarily will be the person in front.:)
nice thought Lucky Pajji!
frnds r many bt true frnd can b one...
U need to earn good frnds..you can not get them so easily..and once you get them, you should never loose them..
Exactly!
Its really hard to find true frnds.If you have money,If you have fame,only then you will have friends
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