Mumbai or Delhi?????

6 months back I went to mumbai for about a week with my family. The week that i spent there, was so influential that i am still think about it I always share it whenever someone talks about my trip.
We live in "Delhi" -the capital of India, but still somewhere we lack behind Mumbai. You can call the life in Mumbai a totally different world. There is a saying about Mumbai that if
a person lives there for about 1000 days he cannot adjust in any other city.
 Just answer some simple questions-
What happens if you accidently hit someone's vehicle on road in Delhi?
do you receive some abusive language? Or the person directly come to violence?
2nd question-
What if the accident is done by a girl?- I guess just the violence is ignored!!!!
and do you see any girl roaming alone on Delhi roads after 8:30 or 9? or any girl coming out from clubs  at late nights alone?
I have my own experience!! I asked my sister that did you notice any guy staring at you, and her reply earned respect for Mumbai. I don't know whether its Mumbai or the people around there but I liked he culture there.

thats the main difference i am talking about.  

Mumbai is much better in these ways than Delhi. No one uses abusive languages with strangers just like that. and moreover Mumbai is much safer than Delhi for girls.
 I am not saying that Delhites ill mannered  but I like the culture in Mumbai. Yes it is true that Mumbai welcomes you opening its arms but on the other hand it is also quite busy, a neighbor has got nothing to do with his neighbor and in Delhi!!! we know how the neighbors are.
After so many differences in Delhi and Mumbai I still love my Delhi and proud to call my self as a Dilliwala!!!
I guess that is the magic of Delhi..the love of Delhi.

Womb for rent

It is said that motherhood is the best phase of a woman's life. A mother- child relationship is considered to be the most adorable one, but in recent times it has become a profession to escape poverty.

Surrogacy, an arrangement in which a woman carries and delivers a child for another couple or person, has become very common in India and many women are indulged in it for monetary reasons. Women who are not financially strong find it best to rent their womb.

These days couples from abroad who are not able to have child of their own due to female sterility or other medical issues are coming to India to have child because of huge availability of females who are ready to go for surrogacy in minimum amount.

Our society is still not open about such practices and considers it sinful, so women who deliver surrogate babies do it secretly because of the fear of being shunned.

Earlier surrogacy was illicit, but in 2002 it was legalized in India and from then the surrogacy industry has boomed, becoming a key part of the country's lucrative medical tourism market.

At times ladies who choose to be surrogate mothers are exploited by the social parents of the child, sometimes they are fooled by the couple and are not paid according to the agreement, sometimes the society stand against such ladies and make their life hell.

An NGO Sama works for the welfare of the surrogate mothers, but still there is need for stringent laws to protect the surrogate mothers in India so that they get a respectable stature in the society and to stop the unethical practices related to surrogacy.

THE THIRD GENDER

Is it a sin to be a different person???  If no then why do transgender face so much of social-discrimination ,Inequality  .Transgender are those people whose “gender identity”  is not matching their” assigned sex”. These people are consider to be third gender in our society ,But they are not accepted by our society  .Transgender and non conforming people face injustice at every turn , In childhood homes, in school system that promise to shelter and educate, In workplace, Even in grocery store ,at the hand of landlord ,police officer, Health care worker and service providers .Many social activists have been working for  transgender rights .Even Indian court have legalized gay sex .But still that much awareness is not yet spread .And yet people consider  being “  TRANSGENDER IS A MENTAL ILLNESS” , Many people are trying their best to spread the awareness Actor like Brad Pitt have said that  he will get married to her girlfriend Angelin Jolie when everyone will have a right to marriage .so its high time we should spread the awareness and accept them as one of part of our society .

Is dignity greater than life ?

A - They don’t agree. They don’t.

B - But why? What’s the problem?

A- Because they will don’t understand my relationship with him. They will don’t understand that how much we like each other and I will be happier with him after marriage rather than any other person whom I don’t know. They believe that both person belong to the same community is not made right for each other and also say that how much respect of parents left in the society of that girl and guy .You tell me doesn’t I have the right to choose my partner.

B – Of course you have the right. After all it’s about your life.

A – I don’t understand how they can think of it in this era where things have change so much & so people perspective about it.

B – Don’t worry. Every thing will be fine.

The conversation between the two girls standing nearby me in the metro made me think about the serious issue of “Honour Killing” in context of their talks. After thinking about the issue in deep, I think to write a blog on it as a part of my assignment.

The number of love marriages might have gone up in the metros in India but the reality remains differ in the villages in many other states. Honour killing, where men or women are killed by their kin or other members of their caste, is still very rampant in many parts of India. Statistics say that such killings happen in order to save the honour of the caste, community or family. Caste still remains one of the most important factors governing the lives of many people in some parts of India.

It is very sad that the caste system in India has turned into a social evil for many. I wonder how many young people have lost their lives in the name of honour. And how many there are more who are at the gunpoint of this rigid belief system. It is a false belief that honour killing only involves the killing of women. Men are equally victims of this practice, especially when it affects the reputation of a particular caste and community. Many grooms have been killed by the father or the brother of the bride.

When it comes of country's development we somewhere talk about how India has developed and changed so far and reach from where to where and achieved so much. But from my point of view all this proves to be meaningless until and unless people rigid perspective does not change in some issues like inter caste marriage which somewhere harms the future of the youth and ultimately it affects the economy of country like India where 75% of population belong to the youth.

And above all, this make me think that Is people’s ego, respect; dignity is greater than their own loved ones life which they steal by killing them? 

Human Respect VS. Human Life

Corruption

Corruption has become a monster for the common people from all walks of life. Louder the noise against the evil of corruption, the wider the tentacles it spreads as it with a revenge.

Today the mentality of people as well as the administration or the government is “Go for bribery and increase”. So out of control is the corruption that someone rightly remarked “Blessed are the corrupt, for they will inherit the world.” When law breakers become law breakers, who will save the country?

There are many factors responsible for corruption. One caste has become the basis of distribution of investment. Second is the financial interest, emotion rather than reason dictates politics. Third the society just runs after wealth and just amasses it by means- right or wrong.

If democracy has to survive, the middle class value of probity in public life will have to be sustained. If each one of us refuses to offer bribes, however small, corrupt officials will have to step back eventually and this vicious circle can be broken.

India-Jai Ho

      In the parties of reception in marriages we believe the water we drink is safe....?

Because we see big mineral water containers are arranged.

But reality is different, most of the caterers fools us by supplying tap water in those containers.

Share it in the interest of public health. :)